Raising Children: Some Powerful Motivation Tactics
Raising children is no picnic! We know what is good for them (or at least we think we do) but to motivate them to do these things is sooo hard. They seem to never listen to (our) cold logic. I want to present here 3 powerful strategies to help motivate your children to do the right thing.
Before I start, though, it is important to realize that you are unique, your children are unique, and your whole family is unique. Therefore, the art of raising children will be something very individual. What this means is before you listen to my ideas think back and ask yourself one of the first questions I always ask my clients, “What have you EVER used to successfully motivate your children?” If you remember something that has worked for you and your children; use it and you don’t have to finish this post. Use what I have to say only if you don’t have anything that has proved successful.
1. Give them more time to do what they like to do. This is a good strategy for two reasons. Firstly, you know that they like this reward and secondly, it is not expensive. A problem with relying on reward systems to be successful in raising children is that it becomes very expensive; you have to keep on upgrading the rewards to keep their effect. Allowing them more time to do what they like to do is free (you already own the PS or a computer).
2. Give private time with Mom or Dad. This is also for free but it takes more commitment from you (and your spouse) than just giving them more time doing what they like doing. You will be amazed at how effective this is to get your children to do some chore that they don’t like doing. Tell them, “You know what Emma, finish your homework by 8:15 and we’ll be able to talk for a half an hour.” It might take some time for them to really trust you that you are not up to something but in today’s impersonal world of “social networking” etc. people crave for time with a real human, especially their parents.
3. Charts and the sort. Don’t just shrug this one off. It is really one of the best strategies on how to motivate children. This is much better and more economical than giving a reward for individual acts. For older kids you’ll need to be a little more creative to make the charts but it works good for them also
One last word, and this is very important; Whatever you give as positive reinforcement remember that HOW you give it is more important than what you give. When you give the reward that they earned say, “I’m really proud of you that you did/didn’t…. your really deserve {reward}.
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