Don’t Let Depression Ruin Your Marriage
Nobody likes a bad marriage and most people don’t go into marriage planning and hoping that they or/and their spouse will suffer together for 5, 10, or 15 years. If nobody likes bad marriages why then are there so many divorces? One of the biggest reasons for bad marriages is one of the couples suffers from depression. Depression doesn’t directly cause marital friction and divorce but it sets the pain end the process of divorce in motion. In this article I will present 3 ways that depression can cause marital strife, and what to do about it.
1. Major and severe depression can debilitate a person so strongly that they stop to function. This means that they can’t hold down a job and that they can’t take care of their children. This causes that non-depressed spouse now has two functions; to COMPLETELY financially support the family IN ADDITION TO also tending to the rest of family’s needs. You can just imagine how tiring, exhausting and stressful this is. It is only a matter of time (or great strength) before the tired, exhausted, and stressed person wants out.
2. The non-depressed spouse feels cheated and sorry for themselves. Most people get married because they had a good time with their future spouse. They were chemically attracted to one another. Now, however, there is no fun (to say the least). The depressed spouse either is in bed all the time or angry and hostile (two signs of depression). This makes the other spouse to think, “Why do I need all of this? I didn’t get married to be alone and work all day and all night long. Let me get on with my life…” Understandable? Yes. Commendable? No.
3. The depressed spouse doesn’t show any interest in the other spouse (or anything else for that matter). The depressed one is incapable of showing interest in anything and this results in the non-depressed spouse to suffer tremendous loneliness. In the beginning they might feel sorry for their spouse and try to help them but after a while their loneliness can get too painful for them to bear. This feeling of loneliness can result in having an affair (to feel a little human warmth), alcoholism, or other addictions (such as drugs, or video games). Obviously, after such conduct there isn’t too much hope for the marriage to stay intact.
There is only one way to keep your marriage with a depressed person intact; get help for them as soon as possible. If you suspect that your spouse is entering into a depression don’t wait. Speak to them and get help as soon as possible. Depression is not something to play around with.
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